What is Domestic Violence?
THE FOLLOWING IS A LIST of EXAMPLES OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Physical Abuse: Hitting, punching, slapping, shaking, shoving, kicking, strangling, burning, cutting, pinching, biting, pulling hair, holding down, restraining, blocking.
Sexual Abuse: Forcing unwanted sex and/or sex acts. Taking pictures of you and threatening to post/ share them or posting/ sharing them. Physically touching/attacking the sexual parts of your body without your consent.
Emotional Abuse: Put Downs, being made to feel bad about yourself, Gaslighting/playing mind games, turning your kids against you, calling you names, giving you the silent treatment.
Isolation: Controlling what you do, who you talk to, withholding or limiting phone use, transportation, or contact with family or friends, harassing family or friends, constantly is with you went you do finally go somewhere.
Intimidation: Making you afraid by looks, gestures or actions. Destroying property, abusing pets, displaying weapons.
Economic Abuse: Making or attempting to make you financially dependent. Withholding money or access to money. Forbidding, preventing or sabotaging your employment or schooling, forced welfare fraud, making you pay their bills/ debt, making you ask for money or turn over your earned money to them.
Strangulation: Any pressured applied to the neck by any means. Study’s show being strangled just one time you are 750% more likely to be killed. Experts say someone should seek medical attention if they experience difficulty breathing, speaking, swallowing, loss of consciousness, nausea, vomiting, lightheadedness, headache, involuntary urination and/or defecation especially if pregnant.
These are some of the examples and they are NOT OK. If you or someone you know is being abused you are not alone, there is help.
Cycle of Abuse
Tensions Building
Tensions increase, breakdown of communication, victim becomes fearful and feels the need to placate the abuser.
Incident
Verbal, emotional & physical abuse.
Anger, blaming, arguing,
Threats. Intimidation.
Reconciliation
Abuser apologizes, gives excuses, blames the victim, denies the abuse occured, or says that it wasn’t as bad as the victim claims.
Calm
Incident is “forgotten”, no abuse is taking place. The “honeymoon” phase.
Repeat
This is the pattern, please reach out for help to break it.
More than half of Native American/Alaskan Native women (55.5%) have experienced physical violence by intimate partners in their lifetime.
Native American /Alaskan Native women are 1.7 times more likely than White non-Hispanic women to have experienced violence in the past year.
The Port Gamble S’Klallam Tribal Law and Order Code, title 15.01.02, defines it as: Domestic Violence is abusive and controlling behaviors that are used by one person against an intimate partner, former partner or family member.
The Port Gamble S’Klallam Tribal Law and Order Code, title 15.04.01, “IF YOU ARE THE VICTIM OF DOMESTIC ABUSE, you have the right to go to the tribal court and file a petition requesting a protection order. A protection order can provide the following relief: (a) restraining your attacker from contacting you or your children; (b) directing your attacker to leave your household; (c) preventing your attacker from entering your residence, school, business or place of employment; (d) awarding you or the other parent temporary custody of a minor child or children; qt (e) ordering your attacker to timely pay any existing debts, including mortgage or rental payments, that are necessary to maintain you in your residence. Other forms of relief are also available through a court issued protection order. You can obtain a copy of the officer’s report at no cost to you. You also have the right to obtain a protection order in state court. The forms you need to obtain an order for protection can be obtained from the clerk of the court or from the Domestic Violence Advocate.”
You Have Rights
- You have the right to NOT be hit OR hurt in any way.
- You have the right to be treated with respect.
- You have the right to end a relationship that isn’t right or healthy for you.
- You have the right to hang out with your friends and family and do things you enjoy without your partner getting jealous or controlling.
- You have the right to freedom from fear and abuse.
- You have the right to leave an abusive environment.
- You have the right to say No.
- You have the right to earn and control your own money.
- You have the right to change your mind.
- You have the right to have your own opinions, to express them and to be taken seriously.
- You have the right to love and be loved.
- You have the right to put yourself first.
- You have the right to petition Tribal court for a protection order.
- You have the right to have a victim advocate.
You Are Not Alone
If you need a protection order you can contact the victims’ advocates or the court clerk’s office.
Port Gamble S’ Klallam Police
360-297-6333
SAVIN 1-888-846-3492 www.vinelink.com
S’Klallam Medical center 360-297-2840
S’Klallam Wellness Counselor 360-297-6326
KSAC 24-hour support service 1-866-831-2050
YWCA 24-hour line 1-800-500-5513
Coffee Oasis Youth Crises texting line 360-377-5560
Crisis Clinic 1-800-843-4793
We Are Here to Help
safety planning • listening • resources • referrals
Teresa Swope
Victim, Survivor Advocate
31912 Little Boston Rd, Kingston, WA
1-360-297-6304 or 1-360-621-0090
CRIME VICTIMS HOTLINE 24/7
360-536-3085
